"Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law. The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. Romans 13:8-12 (NIV)
1. Remember Your Debt Of Love You Can Never Repay.
"Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another ..."
The first place to start when it comes to improving you ability to love is to remember that God first loved you when you were unlovable. God loved us while we were still in the middle of our sinful condition and He demonstrated that love by having Jesus die on the cross to take the punishment that we deserved for our sins. Then God after Christ's resurrection offered forgiveness of sin as a free gift if we would only receive it by faith. How can you pay back that kind of debt? You can't but we can pay it forward by loving others the way Christ loved us.
2. Regard Others Like Yourself
"Love your neighbor as yourself ..."
The next place to go for improving your ability to love is to remember that the scripture tell us to love others as we love ourselves. Just as you take care of yourself - in the same way you should also take care of others. If you are one who doesn't love yourself very well then do what Christ said. "A new commandment I give unto you that you love one another like I have loved you."
3. Refuse To Harm Others
"Love does no harm to a neighbor."
And finally, in order to improve your ability to love others better you should always remember that love does not harm others. When we love people it is our intent to build them up - not to tear them down! It's to heal them - not injure them! Here's a good question to ask yourself before you talk to someone or do something to someone:
"Is what I am about to say or do going to harm this person?"
If the answer is "yes" then don't do it! Why? Because love does no harm!
Now that these suggestions and go out into your part of this dark world and love people liberally! Shine the Light of Christ brightly by doing loving deeds in such a way that God gets the glory for it.